What is a Real Man?
I’m sure most of you have seen this video floating around Facebook, and I’m sure you had some opinions about it after watching it like I did.
I’m referring to the video of Dame Dash discussing what a real man is on The Breakfast Club(Skip to around 15:00):
Now, basically,(correct me if I’m wrong) Dash is saying that, if you have a 9 to 5 and have a boss, you aren’t a real man and you need to do better.
I wholeheartedly disagree….sorry Dame…..
He emphasized that, if you can’t come and go as you please and are at risk of getting fired, you’re not a real man.
If you have a regular job – kudos, because not every man has one, or wants one for that matter. Secondly, if you do get fired, a real man knows how to pick himself up and find another one. If he’s having trouble, he still knows how to take care of his family in the meantime. Besides, not everyone is cut out to be a so-called boss. Not every man is meant to run a company or be responsible for a large group of people – it just isn’t his calling. So just because he works for someone doesn’t make him any less of a man than you, Mr. Dash.
Granted, being able to leave a legacy for your children is important and something that every father should want for his children – that I agree with him on – but to blatantly disrespect another man just because he makes his living and provides for his family differently than you, sir? Nah, I can’t get down with that one.
I mean, come on. My father doesn’t have his own company, but he is literally the hardest working and most real man I know. He has always been able to provide for his family and give us everything we needed, even if that meant he had to go without. A real man doesn’t need anything – he’s happy knowing that his family is taken care of.
So in conclusion, Mr. Dash, in my opinion, just seems to be looking at manhood from a prideful and materialistic perspective. And I personally do not take much of a liking to it. How would he feel if someone came to him and attempted to belittle his livelihood and his status as a man?
44 thoughts on “What is a Real Man?”
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I think a real man is a guy who steps up and does what need to be done. Whether it's being a good husband, a father, doing things around the house -whatever.
A real guy is one that understands his role and that his lady is an equal, one whom he needs to communicate with and work together with.
How did I miss this video? I must be the only one on earth who hasn't seen it.
Completley agree with you!!
Wow, I am surprised I hadn't seen this video before, but I totally agree with you!
I don't know that there is one right answer for how a man should be.There are plenty of men who aren't their own bosses.
I haven't seen this video before, but I do agree with you in disagreeing with him. I think every person is his own person and that is what makes our world beautiful
well said!! I haven't seen the video, but I agree with everything you've said.
I hadn't seen the video but I think it makes a real man to do what it takes to take of his family regardless if he works 9 to 5 or 6 to 6
I reserve my comments on this since I haven't seen the video. A real man is the one that takes care of their family.
This is the first time I've heard of the video.
I've not heard about this video either.. interesting views though!
I vote ridiculous. What you do for a job or not really has nothing to do with how much of a 'man' you are.
Not every thing works for every person of family. You have a lot of good points.
This is the first time I'm seeing this video. Not sure what to think!
Never saw this till now, I think I heard my kids talking about it, though
Before even seeing the video, I can agree that being a man is not dependant on your job title.
For me it was hard to understand what was going on, they were laughing so much and being loud so I am not sure.
Definitely ridiculous! However, if I decide to play devil's advocate, I do think that there is something admirable about someone being ambitious and entrepreneurial. It isn't for everyone though, and it certainly doesn't make someone less of a man!
It is so ridiculous! It is very belittling to hard working men all over the world! So sad to hear people put others down like that.
There are so many men that do not have a college degree or a 9-5 job and they work so hard for their family!
Just seen this video. For me, a real man is a kind who stands what is right and do the best he could for his family.
I couldn't agree more!
Thank you! It's all about the effort!
Right. Not everyone thrives in the same areas!
Right, I understand what you're saying. Thanks for your comment!
Ha right. Basically he just felt that, if a man didn't own his own business and had a boss, he wasn't a real man because he couldn't come and go as he pleases or give his children a job the company.
Thank you! Ha. Appreciate your opinion.
Yeah, it's been pretty controversial.
I felt the same way when I first watched it. Glad I could expose you to it though.
Thank you! And you're right, every family is different.
Exactly! To me, it's all about the effort.
Thanks for stopping by!
Really? It's been all over my Facebook feed.
Appreciate you expressing your opinion. Thanks for stopping by!
You are so right! It shouldn't matter what he does – just as long as he does something.
Thanks for agreeing with me ha.
Right – beautifully said. No man is the same. As long as he's doing right by his family it shouldn't matter.
Right. And they're just as successful.
Yeah, it's been all over my Facebook feed. But I'm glad I'm not the only one who disagrees with him.
Thank you! I appreciate the support! Ha.
Haha nah. There are other readers who said they hadn't seen it either. So it's all good 🙂
Amen! Couldn't have said it better!
You were right on point with that! A real man does what he has to do – point blank. That's all that should matter.